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Since it is a long explanation, I just thought I would put the conversation here, take from it whatever you think.

Yes, I know what I said was fairly harsh, but at this point I have sort of given up on caring.

December 12, 2013

David M. Cleary

Hi, Ned. Just a note to say hello, and hope you are well. I have been off of FB for sometime, because I change to Verizon and could get it back until now. I just had my 79th birthday yesterday, and never thought I would make it this far. I am now into my 80th year, WOW. I play tennis 4 days a week, and golf at least twice a week, and stay very active, I guess that is why I stay in fairly decent shape, staying athletic. Stay well, and don’t forget your mother’s B-Day on the 20th as she enters into the 70’s, but she will never catch me. Drop me a line on clearydm@Verizon.net, and let me know how you are doing. You are still my son, and proud of you, no matter how things are now. We deserve some time and heal the past. I don’t know how much time I have left, only GOD knows that, you may even call me at 1-941-544-4533, my cell and have a few words. Think hard about it, we nee d to talk and get some things of our minds. I hope you agree, it has been too long. God bless you for the coming season, and remember to stay well. Remember the Christmas season, good time to reflect, Dad

December 23, 2013

Ned Cleary

I am glad you are doing well.

I don’t really know what there is to talk about. We didn’t have much of a relationship of any kind when you lived up here, I don’t know what there can really be with you living down there.

You are my father and I am glad you are healthy, but you have done some things that are pretty poor taste in my mind.

I also have chosen to generally not interact with anyone who doesn’t affect my life in a positive way and the way things are, I don’t see any positive points to anything here, so I am not sure what you really expect?

I broke up with my GF, I live back in Waltham now at a new place, if for some reason you need to mail anything, just send it to mom’s and I will get it.

January 23, 2014

David M. Cleary

Hi, glad to see you are living well. I was hoping to make contact and even things out, finally. I am willing to talk about any problems. Please call me at 1-941-544-4533 and settle this once and for all. I am not going to live forever. I am in my 80th year and don’t know how many I have left. When I die, It will be too late, for both of us, and I don’ want you to regret anything,OK. And neither do i. Let’s get it done. Dad

I was then off Facebook when I shutdown my account, I did open another account but I had no friends and there was a note on the front saying I wasn’t using the account, it was only for the purpose of being able to sign into websites which require a facebook account to use them, but he sought me out and we had this exchange below.

December 11, 2014

David M. Cleary
Hi, can you explain the question about not much of a relationship up there? Give me a clearer explanation. From my side of the ledger, you seemed to be off and aloof from me there, and I never knew why. Can you give me a more definite answer about more specific areas of disagreement that seem to arise over the time period where I guess I didn’t contact you, or you became indifferent about me. I know your sister seems to be in the same area, and I don’t know why, because neither of you have ever explained any of this with me. There has to be some root to the problems that was never surfaced. There lies the mystery of both relationships. I turned 80 today, and don’t know how long I will be around. I am in good shape, in some areas, but with some of my problems, and there there are a few, which are taking their toll. If you would please respond and clarify the issues, I would really appreciate it. Christmas would seem to be a good time for this to come about. I can forgive and hopefully, you would/could also. I hope you have a great holiday, also I am sorry for taking so long to answer you, as this is the first time I have been on Facebook for almost a year. Wishing you the best, Dad

December 16, 2014

Ned Cleary

While you were a provider for the family, I wouldn’t say you were ever really a father from what I would expect a father to be, anything I was doing as a kid and you were there or you had to drive me or pick me up always gave me the impression of you being annoyed at being bothered to have to do anything. Maybe that’s how you felt, maybe it’s not, but that’s the way you made me feel.

You’re selfish, inconsiderate, rude, a little sleazy and everything is always about how you can benefit from any situation.

You cheated on mom, instead of deciding to divorce, you chose to just cheat instead. That destroys a ton of respect in my opinion, I don’t care about sticking around because of us kids or anything like that, there’s no excuse for cheating on someone, ever. The hangups we used to get? That was whoever your GF was at the time, and then you used to keep your condoms behind the ashtray in the medallian, not sure where you kept them in the escort after you gave me the medallian, but you let a couple in the medallian when you gave it to me.

You’re an alcoholic, the number of stories from Easton Police following you home as you drove home drunk after the pulled you over are too numerous to count.

You’re inconsiderate and rude, two specific events pop up in my head, both were at Fantasy Camp. The first was when we were at the opening night party and you decided to announce to Bill Lee and everyone around there that I was your son but “for some reason he doesn’t want to have anything to do with me” and then the other was trying to get my teammate on your side to try and make me feel guilty and make up with you while at camp.

Yes, that’s rude and inconsiderate of you, no one, especially complete strangers has no reason to know about or be involved in the dysfunction between us. Dirty laundry is fine, but there is no need to be airing it out for all the world to hear about.

Also, the pictures you took and then sent me copies of, well, that’s kinda creepy to be honest, I can understand your intent, but it was creepy.

Then there is the Uncle George Estate, which goes back to my original point about you always seeing how something can benefit you.

Yes, you gave me a loan.

Yes, I was really slow on paying it back.

You had never stated nor had we talked about a timeline for paying it back. Had you asked me, I would have started making payments of some kind.

I know you also are well aware that you forgave that loan and told me to consider it a gift, whether an off handed comment or not, you said it.

Then, you were a sneaky ass and just took that money without asking me, or letting me know. It’s not about the money, the fact you never asked or said anything and just did it. That’s rude and inconsiderate as well. If you had called me and asked if you could take payback from my share, I would have said “Sure, no problem”, but instead, you just did it and didn’t tell me about it, so I am left to figure out what happened.

As a side note, what you did was illegal, the fact the lawyer went along with it with no problem, blows my mind, but it was illegal.

Also, the petty actions you have taken in the past in regards to beneficiary changes when someone’s gotten into a fight or argument with you over something.

Overall, I don’t have a lot of respect for you based on your actions, and in order for me to have a relationship of any kind with pretty much anyone in this world, one of the primary things that needs to be there is respect, in both directions.

You have shown a huge lack of respect for me, and I don’t have much respect for you, so that doesn’t really leave much there for any kind of relationship to exist or be built or anything really.

I really don’t know what you want or expect.

Also, I don’t use this account, I only had it so I could sign onto some sites when I shut down my regular Facebook account.

I have not heard back from him since, until I got the LinkedIn connection request a couple weeks ago, it also never indicated that he ever read my response either.

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